Confident Communication

Janet Jackson is arguably the biggest sex icon of all time. She had a similar theme with much of her music; sensual passion and understanding. There were timeless hits from her during the 80s through the 2000s.

I’ll never forget attending her velvet rope tour with my dad when I was younger at the MCI Center (renamed later to the Verizon Center) in D.C.  Originally, we were looking to get wrestling tickets!  I had no idea what prompted the cashier to ask if we were JJ fans but he was adamant about how great the seats were for her concert coming to town in a few weeks. I looked up at my pops and shrugged. We pulled the trigger.

To this day that is still the best show I’ve ever been to. My hormones were on full tilt the entire show.  She had this act where she literally stripped for the entire audience. I remember her pacing left and right across the stage looking out into the crowd. After a few moments, she points to some random guy and prompts security to help him get on stage. The security then straps the dude down so he couldn’t move. The luckiest dude in the room then proceeded to receive a (less than private) dance from JJ herself and two backup dancers who were equally as beautiful.

Confidence is key! Personally, it’s hard for me to be cool with others who don’t know what they want. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who didn’t have any definitive stances on anything? It’s frustrating.

Want to improve communication with others? Tell them what you want. Convey what you mean and be clear. I’ve written out some examples that may resonate with a majority of the audience. Please see the following.

*Caveat* I assigned no gender roles / I understand that not every interaction is as binary as the below examples:


Ex A. Person 1: “What’s good my dude you heard that new Gucci gang? You going to get that Pump album?“

Person 2: “Nah dude. Pump is trash. His lyrics are retarded.”

(Clear stance on Lil Pump. Person 2 thinks he’s garbage.)


Ex B. Person 1: “Hey babe what do you want to eat?”

Person 2: “Ummmm.. How about tacos?”

Person 1: “ We just had that yesterday”

Person 2:  “Well ok, what do you want?

Person 1:  “ Want to hit Wing Stop and split a 20 piece?”

Person 2: “Sure.”

(They both go to Wing Stop in mutual agreement)


Ex C. Person 1: “What’s going on? Hey real quick… I think you are beautiful. We should go out some time”

Person 2: “Eww get away. Not interested”

(Person 1 departs to engage someone else of interest)


Ex D. Person 1: “Honey do you like this on me?”

Person 2: (Use some caution here) “ You know what I love better on you? (There you go!!!) That floral romper you got!”

(Person 2 was able to communicate what they actually liked)

While I was on the way to meet up with some of my friends in downtown Waikiki, JJ’s Rope Burn track hit my speakers. If you listen closely, her lyrics dictate exactly what she wants from her partner. She confirms how everything feels. She asks clear and concise questions as to how she can please in return.

Listen to my girl JJ’s track here (Explicit Content)

I believe the world would be so much better if we were all confident communicators don’t you agree? Let me know what you think!

Happy New Year



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